Saturday, October 8, 2011

15 mistakes I made while working w/men: Mistake #3

Whatever you do, do it enthusiastically, as something done for the Lord and not for men, knowing that you will receive the reward of an inheritance from the Lord—you serve the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:23-24, HCSB.

 3 - Protect your warrior and the babies.

            Our warriors or advocates will protect us but we need to return the favor. When someone makes a negative comment about our boss, we need to defend him. It may be that the pastor has made a decision that someone is unhappy with. Even if we agree with the criticism, we must learn to respect the decision and show respect for the one who made it. We must be supportive of our bosses. It is best to respond to the person by reminding them that we do not have all the information and that they need to address the one who made the decision personally. I have found that generally, people just like to complain to someone. Seldom do they go to the person anyway. We should make sure that we are protecting those we serve with.
            Another issue here is to protect those who serve under us in areas of leadership. I know that when working with women there are times that one will complain about another. We must not join the complaint bandwagon. Encourage the one complaining to go the woman personally just like it says in Matthew 18. Sometimes there will be a legitimate complaint and it might be that you need to get the other side on the issue. As we are all aware, there are many versions to any situation and we are only hearing one. Regardless of what might need to be address, encourage biblical interaction and protect those who serve under you.
Excerpts from Women Leading Women: The Biblical Model for the Church, Chapter Six, Serving with Men, by Jaye Martin.